Helping the kids without derailing your retirement plans

As parents, the instinct to support our children never truly fades, even when they become adults but when you are looking at giving them a financial helping hand there is a bit to consider.

It’s important to ensure any support you provide is not at the expense of your financial future. It can also be tricky knowing what form your support should take, in order to maximise the benefits for your kids.

Support in a challenging environment

In today’s financial landscape, many young people are struggling to get ahead in the face of skyrocketing housing prices and rising living costs and it’s increasingly common for parents to provide some form of financial assistance. In fact, more than half of parents with a child older than 18 provide financial support.ⁱ

So, if you are giving your adult kids a monetary helping hand, or considering it, you are in good company.

Achieving balance

The challenge for most people is the balance between helping your kids get a head start in life and making sure you have enough for a secure financial future.

It’s important to have clear visibility of your own financial situation, of how much you’ll need to fund the retirement you aspire to, and how much you can comfortably spare. If your financial future is secure, you’ll be in a better position to help your children when they need it most, so ensure that any contribution you make to your kids’ financial wellbeing is not at the expense of your superannuation and other retirement savings.

Ways of providing support

When we think of support we often think of the ‘bank of mum and dad’ helping with a home purchase and that is quite common, with 40 per cent of new home buyers getting a hand from their parents.ⁱⁱ

If you’re considering this route, you have several options:

Gift funds: If you have the means, you can gift your child a portion of the deposit, however, be mindful of any tax implications.

Going guarantor: Another popular option is to act as a guarantor on your child’s home loan. This means that you’ll use the equity in your own home to guarantee the loan, which can help your child secure better borrowing terms. It’s a significant commitment, so be sure to discuss the potential risks and implications thoroughly.

Co-ownership: In some cases, parents and children can purchase a property together, sharing the financial responsibilities. This arrangement can be beneficial, but it’s crucial to have a clear agreement in place outlining each party’s responsibilities and financial contributions.

Other ways of providing financial support

There are lot of other ways you can help your kids with a range of expenses. Nearly 40 per cent of parents pay for their adult children’s groceries and around the same proportion allow their adult children to live at home rent-free, while around a third pay their adult children’s bills. One in five fork out for their kid’s car-related costs like registration fees and petrol and 20 per cent pay for their kids to take off on holidays.ⁱⁱⁱ

Non-financial support

Financial assistance isn’t the only way to support your children. Often, your time and knowledge can be just as valuable. Encourage them to develop good financial habits, such as budgeting, saving, and investing. You might even consider involving them in family discussions about money management, which can empower them to make informed financial decisions.

Communication is critical

Regular, honest conversations about finances can strengthen your relationship with your children. Discuss their financial goals and challenges openly and encourage them to share their aspirations. These dialogues will allow you to gauge how best to support them and sometimes, just being there to listen can make a world of difference.

Setting clear boundaries is also crucial when offering financial support. Discuss how much you can provide, whether it’s a one-off gift, a monthly allowance, or a loan. By being transparent about your limits, you can prevent misunderstandings and help your children set realistic expectations and become financially independent.

Navigating the complexities of financial support can be challenging, especially when balancing your own needs with those of your children. We can provide assistance and advice tailored to your unique situation and help you create a sustainable plan that allows you to assist your children without compromising your retirement goals.

i Finder Bank of Mum and Dad Report | Finder
ii https://www.apimagazine.com.au/news/tag/deposit
iii Bank of Mum and Dad slightly less generous than before COVID-19 crisis, survey shows | Domain